rom a very young age, women are taught about the importance of motherhood. They play mummy with their baby dolls as they mirror actions of their own mothers.
While working as a nanny for four years, I always imagined what I would be like when I had my own children. What they don’t teach those little girls who grow up to become women is how hard the path to motherhood can be. Many complications can come with pregnancy to both the mother and the baby, but one of the worst to experience is a miscarriage.
As a 26-year-old navigating life, I have suffered three miscarriages. The only thing stronger than the physical toll a miscarriage takes on the body is the emotional toll it takes on the heart and soul. Society and history has told women one of their sole purposes in this world is to bear children, but what happens to the women who can’t? This is a question that still haunts me.
For many months I struggled with trying to forgive my own body for failing at what I thought it was supposed to do.
The littlest of things can remind you of what could have been and as the years pass by you imagine how different your life could be. So many women suffer miscarriages alone and sometimes without medical attention. Suffering in silence can lead to much more physical and emotional distress, depression, anxiety, self-harm and more.
As the world pours its heart out to Chrissy Teigen, John Legend and their beautiful family, a community of women who have experienced the same heartbreaking outcome can find solace in knowing they are not alone.
The topic of miscarriages is not often discussed despite how common they are. When a tragedy like this strikes to a celebrity, it's a reminder that it can happen to anyone, at any time and the one thing we have in common is that we are all human.
The power someone like Chrissy Teigen holds in opening up about her experience can be lifesaving for people struggling. I can only hope Teigen sharing her story will help spread awareness on the topic and teach people to be more sensitive on matters such as pregnancy and fertility.
You truly never know what someone is going through and I will never judge the way a mother chooses to grieve her children. Even in her darkest of hours, she unites an army of women and partners to spread love and perseverance.
Chrissy Teigen is a warrior. Any woman who has suffered a miscarriage is a warrior. My deepest condolences to Chrissy, John and their family.
Rest in Power, angel baby Jack.
By Bri Martinez, @brimartinezz